Ageism in Parenting

As a dad, I am required to have a consistent moral value and offer a supportive environment for my kids to grow.  Team up with mom well in enforcing the moral value and supportive environment is a silent proof to the kids that this is what is called a family.

Unfortunately, not all parents realise that their kids, no matter how young they are, understand and look to you for examples. No wonder if later on, you will be surprised knowing your kids do copy you A LOT - whether it is a good thing or a bad thing.

One problem parents always do is ageism.

What is ageism?

Ageism is a discrimination against one’s age. An example of ageism is underestimating someone for being young in age.
Source: http://www.knoltoday.com/society/2008/09/12/ageism-the-underrated-discrimination/

I often heard parents say, “He can’t understand that… he is too young.” - this is ageism and it is a huge mistake. Even when your child was in the womb, he or she knew and felt the surrounding environment.

“You can’t do that, you are too young.” “You know nothing about it, you are too young.”

The damaging effect of saying that will grow your kids into ‘a loser’ and be carried by your kids to adolescence.

So I recommend parents to keep motivating and talk to you children. Don’t worry if yours can’t understand not even a word from you - they can feel you. Let your kids grow to be a responsible and confident person by not talking down to yours.

Respect your kids, and they will respect you.

There are No Bad Kids - They are Only Being Active

I have heard that many parents complaining about their children behaviour.  They say, “My kids are bad - I can’t possible handle them!”

Well, parents - there are NO bad kids.  Your kids are only being active!

Parents, relax.  I know you overwhelmed by your kids, but rest assured that your kids are becoming bad persons if and only if you set a bad example to them! As long as you teach them well, the will grow as a good and well-mannered person.

How to handle my active kids

Active kids - like mine - are desiring for one thing - fulfillment of their need to be active. My little boy sleep well at night if he does a lot of activities during the day.

Well, of course parents can’t play with their children all day long - but there are certain games and activities that, in my experience, help your active children less aggressive.

The best activity, in my case, is playing catch and kicking around with a beach ball. Why a beach ball? First, it is ‘floaty’ - easier for my little boy to chase the ball around. Second, it can help my child’s motoric activity - bouncing the ball around need a bit more coordination than the regular ball.

The second best activity is the ‘Tag, you’re it’ game - this game will surely let your active child burns more energy. The caveat - it will also burn your energy

One tip - avoid getting the ball or any toys your children are playing with for your children. Let them take their own toys. Not trying to be lazy, but this way, your children will grow a sense of achievement, as well as more energy to burn!

One more thing - don’t forget to cool down when bed time approaches.

When done right, hopefully your kids are becoming ‘manageable’ and so do your days.